So you can have an understanding of what we're like as parents, here's our basic philosophy about raising kids.
This is going to irk some people, but I don't believe in having kids in order for someone else to raise them. I'm a stay-at-home mum with a PhD not because my hubby earns loads of money and we can afford to do it, but because we choose to live a simple lifestyle because we value family more than status. We both believe that our child will thrive the most if he is raised by one of us. My husband could do just as good as a stay-at-home as me. Thankfully, we have shared values around parenting, money, and meditation.
We believe that our child should never be hit or yelled at. This is a type of violence and is counterproductive. All it does is damage the child's self-esteem and teaches them that it's okay to hit and yell at others. It is totally not okay to hit and yell at others. I know first hand the destructiveness of being hit and yelled out and my personal life mission is to not repeat those bad, bad, bad parenting practices.
We want our child to be happy, healthy, and kind. It doesn't matter whether he's gay, straight, transgendered, plumber, or doctor. All that matters is that is happy and is kind to others. As Ahjan Brahm says, "The door to my heart is always open." We could never reject our son based on his sexuality, occupation, or other lifestyle choices. If he ended up in jail or as an alcoholic I would be really surprised given the wholesome upbringing he is receiving. But if that happened, we would always be there for him.
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